Parents are biased against trans kids, children aren’t


THE future is upon us and it’s gay, straight, transgender and intersex, but it’s just us adults who seem to care, writes Rachel Fenner.

Early last month, there was public outrage in Perth after a WA guide urged schools to include gender neutral toilet and change room options.

The recommendations were made by Inclusive Education WA, which was rebranded from the Safe Schools program.

To be honest, I usually ignore these stories.I have my own opinions on how these kids should be treated and what’s said online will do little to change these opinions.

Besides this piece isn’t about what I think.

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Kids are accepting of gender identity. Picture: iStock

I have two kids attending a public high school in the southern suburbs. This piece is about what they think.

We are all busy in our household – between the adults working full time and the two kids having sporting commitments and full social lives.

So, every night we sit at the table and eat a meal together. It’s our chance to touch base, discuss our days and make sure they are all learning decent table manners.

On one of these nights, the subject of gender neutral toilets came up.

About six months ago one of their friends began transitioning from female to male.

My daughter pointed out how unfair it was that he had to use the female toilets still.

Then my son pointed out that another boy they knew had transitioned from female as well, and he was stuck using the female change rooms as well.

“It’s just so stupid,” my daughter said.

“They aren’t allowed in the boys toilets, but they aren’t girls anymore.”

Gender neutral toilets and change rooms are simple solutions to preserving their classmates’ dignity. Picture: iStock

These two kids grasp the concept that many adults struggle with.

To them this isn’t a hot button issue that should be discussed by talking heads on TV.

To them gender neutral toilets and change rooms are simple solutions to preserving their classmates’ dignity.

If it doesn’t offend the people actually affected on a daily basis by this issue, then why does it offend so many?

Maybe it’s time we start listening to the kids more and stop acting outraged.



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